As an advocate against domestic violence, I want to remind everyone that love does not hurt or control another person. This Valentine's Day, let's celebrate healthy and respectful relationships where both partners feel safe and valued.

Let's use this day as an opportunity to show love and kindness to everyone in our lives, whether it be a romantic partner, family member, friend, or even a stranger. Small acts of kindness can go a long way in making someone feel appreciated and loved.

Remember, love should always be about respect, kindness, and compassion. Let's work together to create a world where everyone can experience love without fear of harm or violence.

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group makes someone doubt their own memories, perceptions, or sanity. Recognize it, reclaim your reality and protect yourself from this insidious form of abuse. 

Signs of gaslighting can include:

• Making the victim question their own memory or perception of events.
• Denying events or information that the victim knows to be true.
• Blaming the victim for problems in the relationship or for their own behavior.
• Constant lying and contradiction.
• Making the victim feel isolated or dependent on the manipulator.
• Using fear, guilt, or shame to control the victim's behavior.
• Manipulating evidence or circumstances to confuse the victim.
• Projecting blame on the victim, making them feel responsible for the manipulator's problems.
• Creating a sense of insecurity or instability in the victim.
• Gaslighters often try to keep their behavior hidden, making it difficult for the victim to get support or validate their experiences.

Here are some ways to recognize and address gaslighting:

Trust your gut -If you feel like something is off or not right, pay attention to that feeling. Your gut instincts are often right.

Look for patterns -If you notice a pattern of behavior where someone consistently denies the things you know to be true, it may be a sign of gaslighting.

Document it -Write down instances where you feel like you have been gaslit. This can help you see the pattern more clearly and also serve as evidence when you need to address the situation.

Seek support -It's important to have someone you can talk to about what's going on. Having someone to validate your experiences can help you feel less alone and more confident in your perceptions.

Speak up -When you feel confident, confront the person who is gaslighting you. Let them know that you don't appreciate being manipulated and that you know what's really going on.

Set boundaries -Make it clear to the person that their behavior is not acceptable and that you will not tolerate it. Consider ending the relationship or limiting contact with them if necessary.

Seek professional help -If the gaslighting is severe or affecting your mental health, consider seeking therapy or counseling to help you process your experiences and regain your sense of self.

Gaslighting is a form of abuse and it is not your fault. You have the right to be treated with respect and to have your experiences validated. Never allow someone to manipulate you into doubting yourself.

If you need support, reach out to me. Help is available and I can point you in the right direction.

Do you have a never-ending plan for the day that never seems to be completed? One productivity tip that can help increase your effectiveness and efficiency is to prioritize your tasks and responsibilities. By taking the time to focus on your work, you can zero in on the most important and pressing tasks first and avoid getting bogged down by less significant ones. This can help you stay on track and on target, and increase your productivity and success.

One method for prioritizing your tasks and responsibilities is the "123" category method. 

Divide your tasks into three categories:

Category 1 tasks are the most important and urgent tasks that need to be completed immediately. These tasks should be your top priority and should be tackled first.

Category 2 tasks are important but not urgent tasks that can be completed at a later time. These tasks should be completed after the 1 tasks, but should still be given attention and priority.

Category 3 tasks are tasks that are neither important nor urgent and can be delegated or put off until a later time. These tasks should be given the least priority and can be tackled once the 1 and 2 tasks are completed.

By using the 123 category method, you can prioritize your tasks and responsibilities, focusing on the most important and urgent tasks first. This can help you stay focused and on track, and increase your productivity and success.

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We as a whole have an internal voice, a wellspring of insight and direction that lives inside us. This inward insight can give important bits of knowledge and assist us with exploring life's difficulties and choices. In any case, how would we get to this inward direction and make it a standard piece of our lives? The following are a couple of ways to track down your inward insight:

Characterize your qualities: Your inward insight is intently attached to your qualities and convictions. Carve out opportunity to consider what is genuinely essential to you and a big motivator for you. This can assist you with pursuing choices that are lined up with your qualities and lead to a feeling of satisfaction and joy.

Practice care: One method for taking advantage of your inward insight is to calm the clamor of the rest of the world and spotlight on the current second. This should be possible through practices like reflection, journaling, or just taking a couple of full breaths and focusing on your environmental elements. By focusing on the present, you can make space for your inward insight to be heard.

Look for direction from others: It tends to be useful to search out the viewpoint of confided  companions, relatives, or tutors. Notwithstanding, make certain to believe their recommendation with some hesitancy and recollect that ultimately, your internal insight is the most dependable aide. Utilize the admonishion of others as a beginning stage, however trust yourself to pursue the most ideal choice for you.

Trust yourself: Believing yourself and your choices is a critical part of getting to your inward insight. This can be far from simple or easy, yet attempt to relinquish self-question and recollect that you can use sound judgment. Trust in yourself and your capacity to go with choices that are appropriate for you.

By rehearsing care, characterizing your qualities, looking for direction from others, and believing yourself, you can take advantage of your internal insight and use it as a directing power in your life. Make sure to proceed to sustain and pay attention to your internal direction, and it will end up being a significant wellspring of insight and direction.

Defining goals is an essential part of leading a fulfilling and successful life. It provides direction and motivation, helps you focus your efforts and resources, and enables you to track and measure your progress and achievements.

Setting goals allows you to identify what is truly important and meaningful to you and create a plan to achieve it. It helps you prioritize your time and make conscious, purposeful decisions about how you want to live your life.

By setting clear and specific goals, you can break down large and complex challenges into manageable and meaningful steps. This makes it easier to stay on track and motivated, and to overcome obstacles and setbacks along the way. It also helps you celebrate and appreciate your progress and achievements, and learn and grow from your experiences.

Goal setting also promotes accountability and self-discipline. It provides a framework for making and following through on commitments to yourself and others, and for staying focused and making consistent progress towards your goals. This can boost your confidence, self-esteem, and sense of accomplishment, and further enhance your overall well-being and satisfaction.

Furthermore, goal setting can improve your communication and collaboration with others. It allows you to share your vision and plans with others, and to seek help, feedback, and accountability. This can strengthen your relationships and help you achieve your goals more efficiently and effectively.

In conclusion, goal setting is a powerful and essential tool for leading a fulfilling and successful life. It provides direction, motivation, and accountability, and helps you focus your efforts and resources, and track and measure your progress. By setting and pursuing clear and specific goals, you can live a more purposeful and meaningful life, and achieve greater well-being, happiness, and success.

Starting the week off on the right foot is key to having a productive and successful week. Here are some tips for getting your Monday off to a great start:

1. Plan ahead: Spend a little bit of time on Sunday getting organized for the week. Make a to-do list, schedule any appointments, and set some goals for yourself. This will help you start Monday feeling prepared and ready to tackle the week.
2. Get a good night's sleep: Make sure you get enough zzz's on Sunday night so you're well-rested and ready to take on the week.
3. Fuel up with a healthy breakfast: Eating a nutritious breakfast will give you energy and help you focus.
4. Exercise: Starting your day with some physical activity can help boost your energy and productivity. Even just a quick walk or yoga session can make a big difference.
5. Set the tone for the week: Start your Monday off on a positive note by setting a positive intention for the week. This can be something as simple as "I will stay focused and organized" or "I will be kind and patient with myself and others."
6. Tackle your most important tasks first: Prioritize your to-do list and tackle the most important tasks first thing in the morning. This will help you make progress and feel accomplished early in the week.
7. Take breaks: It's important to take breaks throughout the day to recharge and refocus. Step away from your desk, go for a walk, or do something that helps you relax.

By following these tips, you can start your week off strong and set yourself up for success. Don't let Monday get you down – take control and make it a great start to the week!

It's simple. Business success is the same as making a cake. Different cakes require different ingredients. The ingredients needed and the order in which they are added changes based on the cake you want. If you change the order, add or remove one or more ingredients, chances are the cake will not turn out too well. Imagine adding raw eggs to a cake that has already been baked because you didn't know they needed to be put in earlier. No one would want to eat that! You know the smartest way to make a cake is to follow a recipe, find out which ingredients are necessary, how much you need and the step-by-step process from scratch to the final product. 

Guess what? 

Business success is the same way. You can try to figure out the recipe on your own and waste a lot of time and $$$ ingredients in the process or you can follow the right recipe for what you want to achieve. Many who do this, end up throwing the cake and giving up. Save yourself time, grief and money by investing in the right guidance. 

So what are the ingredients your business needs?
- A vision is necessary BUT it is not a strategy
- Setting goals is necessary BUT it is not a strategy
- Systems are necessary BUT they are not a strategy
- A positive mindset is necessary BUT it is not a strategy
- Having a coach is an asset BUT it is not a strategy
- Some skills are required BUT they also are not a strategy.
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Unless 'success' falls upon you by accident, your business needs a strategy in order to succeed long term. Period. A strategy is a recipe. The above are just 'ingredients'.

Maybe you need a coach and maybe you don’t. 
Maybe you need new systems and maybe you don’t. 
Maybe you need new skills, maybe you don't. 
Maybe you need to work on your mindset, maybe you don't.
Maybe you you need to redefine your goals, maybe you don't.
Maybe you need a clearer vision, maybe you don't. 

So how do you know what it is your business needs and what steps to take to get you there faster, save yourself a lot of grief and $$$?

You need an expert who can look at your business objectively and give you solid advice without the ulterior motive to sell you more of his/her programs and tell you what you need and how to get there. You need an expert that can help you simplify and show you the steps that need to be taken based on your goals.
You don't need another online cookie-cutter program or cookie cutter advice because your business needs to be different from your competition if you want it to succeed.

Curious to know more about a strategy tailored for your business? I will be happy to help. Contact me

More and more we hear and read about how being grateful is a key ingredient to happiness. Well, even before I found out that studies started revealing this, I always found Thanksgiving to be my favourite holiday.
Growing up in Italy, with regular big family get togethers one would think it would pretty much be a similar experience, yet… for me personally, it isn’t.

Listen to this short solocast and I would love to know your experience and reflections on this subject.

​Happy Thanksgiving!